A few years back I heard a brief conversation between a little boy and his uncle. It went something like this;
Uncle: “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
Little boy: “My daddy”
Uncle: “No, I mean what do you want to be when you grow up?
Little boy: “My daddy”
Uncle: [chuckling] “No, I want to know what you want to be when you grow up. Do you want to be a fireman, police officer, teacher…”
Little boy: [with adamant determination] “ I WANT TO BE MY DADDY!!”
LOL, this was the cutest thing to witness, for the little boy was only 4 or 5 years old; however, while watching this adorable little fellow, I wondered if his father was indeed worthy of his desire to literally “be my daddy” when he grows up. Now we know he cannot actually become his daddy, but he can be like him. What he hears and sees his father do will shape the man this little boy will become. It is the same for all kids; therefore, I pose this question to every father; are you worthy of emulation? Do you want your sons to grow up to “be you?” How would you feel if your daughter wanted to marry someone just like “you?” Sobering thought isn’t it…?
When I was in grad school a fellow student shared with me a testimony about her dad. She told of an incident where a lady on his job was trying to flirt with him, trying to convince him to commit adultery with her. Her dad, a truly saved man, would not do this horrible thing. The woman said to him, “no one would have to know.” His reply? “I would know, and more importantly my God would know.” With few significant words he proceeded to explain to her who God is, why he would not betray Him, and why she needed Christ. He went home that day and let his family know exactly what had happened, and exactly how he handled it. This student truly had a father of integrity; a father able to lead his family by example! He did not take his confession of faith lightly nor his role of husband and father. He proved himself to be a godly man/father, worthy of emulation. We need more fathers of this caliber.
Ah, the honorable profession of fatherhood. If God has entrusted you with raising one (or more) of His little ones, know that you are cultivating a soul. Give them their best chance; strive to be the man God wants you to be, wants your sons to be when they grow up. Be that just measuring stick by which your daughters measure all others when it comes time for them to choose who to love.
Instead of desiring to be proud parent of the next doctor, lawyer, or sports star (not that there’s anything wrong with a good career) strive to raise sons and daughters of integrity and good character. Put that effort, instruction, and encouragement into raising good, strong, godly men; men of quality, of whom the world is in great need. Put your energies into raising young women of excellence who know their worth and are strong, confident and courageous in the Lord. Build your legacy in the generation who will live on after you leave this earth. Build a legacy now that will allow you to stand confidently before God later, knowing you have done the job He gave you to do.
Your child’s first defense is you. It does not matter what background you have, whether you had good examples or poor ones, you can make a difference in your child’s life; you can lay a foundation for their natural and spiritual success. Be that man of God, that Dad, worthy of emulation.
God bless you!
Juanita Deloris is a writer and blogger with a passion to help and encourage the body of Christ. She is one who loves Jesus, fountain pens/ink, books, crochet, and classic films. You can reach her via facebook, twitter, or her blog – PerfectingTruth