A few days ago, I was watching a TV show with my 16-year-old son while mom and our youngest were preoccupied with activities in other rooms. We typically mute the ads, but for some reason one of us (Dad) was not paying attention. A Public Service Announcement (PSA) came on featuring a dad playing a game with his daughter. The message? In a nutshell, “Take time to be a Dad today.” I had seen it several times before and didn’t think much of it, other than a mental acknowledgment it made a good point.
What happened next was eye-opening. When the ad was over, my son says “That’s pretty sad.”
“What?” I asked.
“That commercial. It’s sad that you need to run a commercial to tell Dad’s to take time for their family.”
“Yeah. Your right, it is.” Silence for a few seconds. “How do you think I’m doing as a Dad?”
“I think you’re doing a great job.”
End of conversation- back to our regularly scheduled program.
I’m not sure what amazed me more- the fact he thinks I’m doing a great job fathering him (debatable at times), or that he understands what a healthy father/child relationship should look like. One thing is for sure- he revealed that he really is paying attention to my words and actions, which is shaping his character and worldview.
I’ve learned to not lose heart when I don’t see my children acting/talking the way I think they should (most of the time, anyway). My job is to stay close to my Heavenly Father, keep planting the right seeds, and let God handle the ‘fruit production’. It will come…eventually!
Burke Sage is the husband of an amazing wife, and father of two awesome boys. He enjoys a new love for writing, acting, and regularly sings with the worship team at Crossroads Church in Rockford, MI.